Tips to Help You Deal With Pain

The Buddha, in his famous teaching “The Arrow”, tells us that, “Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.” The tips that follow can help us accept our primary pain and reduce our secondary suffering. How Can We Approach Pain? See if you can stay in the present...

Keys to Being a Great Listener

How Often Do You Feel Really Listened To? How Often Do You Really Listen to Others? Be Honest. We know we are in the presence of a great listener when we get that sweet, affirming feeling of really being heard. But sadly, it occurs all too rarely. We cannot force...

Letting it R.A.I.N.

The acronym R.A.I.N., first coined about twenty years ago by Michele McDonald and widely popularized by Tara Brach, is an easy-to-remember tool for practicing mindfulness. We often get lost in spiraling thoughts in the effort to control our world, and then create...

Why You Should Not Meditate!

So You Want to Learn Meditation, Do You? Okay…Think About This: You will have to feel your feelings. All that anxiety, anger, shame, and fear you’ve been trying to suppress by eating, Facebook, work, TV, being “busy” or getting high just might hit you with its...

“I Never Lie!” Really? Never?

Here is a Reality Check on Honesty You Can Do Although seldom done to intentionally lie, exaggerating and using absolutes do not reflect using speech as groundwork for the cultivation on a personal level of higher virtues and mental development. On a social level,...